First Date Conversations
If there’s one thing more stressful than a first date, it’s first date conversations. Two of Us Dating Service is here to offer you advice on this subject. The good news is that having those stressful ‘get to know you’ momentsdon’t have to be as bad as you might think, as long as you follow a few rules.
Rule # 1: Maintain eye contact. If all you do is hold your date’s gaze with your own eyes, you will be judged a good conversationalist. Maintaining eye contact is a sign of interest. Conversely, repeatedly breaking eye contact conveys a lack of interest. If you want to make a good impression, Two of Us Dating Service recommends that you maintain good eye contact, but don’t stare. You may look away when appropriate (like when the waitress asks for your order), but don’t let your eyes roam all over the place when your date is talking to you.
Rule # 2:Be careful where your eyes roam. If you forget to follow Rule #1, you’d better follow Rule #2 (especially if you’re a guy). Most women do not appreciate a date’s eyes lingering over their cleavage or other sexual body part. Even worse, they really won’t appreciate you eyeing another woman’s physique. You’ve been warned.
Rule #3: Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves, and those on a first date are no different. Yes, it may take some coaxing at first. (The relationship consultants at Two of Us Dating Service are experts at matching both shy and outgoing couples.) In general, however, most people will open up a bit once they get to know someone. The trick to getting someone talking on the first date, therefore, is to ask questions about them. This is not the time to ask deeply personal or potentially troublesome questions. For instance, stay away from any topic concerning sex or politics. Two of Us Dating Service does not think that these topics serves any good purpose in first date conversations.
There are many great topics you can choose to get your date to start talking.
- Pets. Most people have a beloved pet or two, usually dogs or cats (or both). If your date has a different type of pet, like a hamster or a lizard, even better. You can perhaps learn something new about these types of pets.
- Music. Everyone has a preferred type of music. Does your date like country? How about rock, pop, jazz, rap, rhythm and blues? There are so many different types of music out there, and your date is just dying to tell you about his or her favorite type.
- Siblings. Almost everyone has a sibling or two. Ask your date about a favorite sibling, and any favorite childhood memories of them. This is a surefire conversation starter!
The Two of Us Dating Service has chosen these three topics to get you started. We’re sure you can think of many more. But after you ask these questions, don’t forget to follow Rule #4.
Rule #4: Listen to the answers. It’s amazing how few people really listen to other people. But listening to your date’s answers serves a dual purpose: it will calm your nerves and your date will instantly notice your interest.
Follow these rules and you should not have a problem with your first date conversations. If you should have any questions about the process, however, be sure to contact our relationship consultants at Two of Us Dating Service.